It may not be something major that has happened in the relationship. The best way to learn how to trigger the hero instinct in your guy is to watch this free online video. [CDATA[ With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences. Some people love having sex when theyre angry. If you're only 29 and have picked up 5 kilos, he's maybe reading that as a sign of what's to come. He compares himself to other men in your life and feels inadequate. Therefore, every action you make will be geared towards protecting both interests. Or sign in with one of these services. Find Out Why You're Losing Attraction. This is why I have curated this list of 27 signs. However, he no longer sneaks his hand under your shirt while cuddling or gives you random pecks. (pun intended). To start off, you may want to ask him if he thinks youre having less sex than they used to and why he thinks that is. But sometimes when love fades away its better for both parties to leave each other and begin a new journey on their own. The reason is that many of us are observers and thinkers. So, heres what to do when you dont feel desired by your boyfriend. He may be suffering from a mental health issue to the point that it is affecting him physically. This does not necessarily mean that your partner no longer loves you. But, theres this one crucial thing missing, which is a deal breaker for you. When a guy finds you attractive, it is easy to see from the looks in his eyes. An individual who isn't attracted might show a lack of respect . But below Ill address what you can do if you believe he is falling out of love with you and is not attracted to you anymore. If your guy used to randomly steal glances at you and smile, it, no doubt, shows how attracted he is to you. In this case, your boyfriend is probably being extra nice, touchy and might even recommend therapy as a way to rebuild his attraction for you. It could be resentment for something you did that is making him see you in a different light. He steals, glances at you, and looks at you with wonder and excitement. This makes us feel unimportant, disregarded and, in their eyes, not taken seriously, she adds. 5 kilos is nothing. Laugh it up. He doesn't stare at you affectionately, 5. If he feels like you dont actually need him in your life, then he will feel like less of a man. He has mentally checked out of the relationship and your life, so whatever opinions or decisions you make do not affect him. He doesn't stare at you affectionately If your guy used to randomly steal glances at you and smile, it, no doubt, shows how attracted he is to you. Maybe he has other areas of concern. This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply. And your boyfriend will lose interest in you over time. Questions like 'how was your day?' Your partner may change (physically and mentally), circumstances change, and so do your relationship's dynamics. Your desires are now in second place to his, and he does not care how that makes you feel. For example, has he been rejecting all of your advances lately? He may not even know that his attraction has faded, and that could be a contributing factor to why he chooses to pick fights with you instead. I will suggest you scrutinize his new desire, and if it is something you don't mind changing, you can go ahead. Over time, as the initial excitement fades, you might notice you are having sex with your boyfriend less often. Now, I'm not saying your boyfriend or husband has to flip out every time someone pays you a compliment. All of these things can interfere with a normal functioning libido. Along the same lines, Tessina reminds us that it is easy to feel attracted to each other when you arent living together, but as your relationship evolves and you share a home, romantic moments are no longer automatic, and everyday things no longer feel exciting, as its easy to fall into a rhythm. As soon as you start accusing him of doing something wrong or performing badly, youre moving into the territory of negatively judging him. So after he has watched his favorite porn star doing her thing, he can struggle to get aroused by normal day-to-day sexual activities. You see, sex in many ways can bind a couple and improve their overall friendship, so when it seems like your husband has lost interest or it starts to feel like a routine, it means there is no attraction anymore. //